This freaking pisses me off, when I’m destroying their arguments, fact after fact, they just go in this weird sulking mode, like they don’t have anymore arguments but don’t want to acknowledge it and are like “ ehh whatever, he’s stupid…”.
Would you rather be right than happy? I am asking you this question because you can always be right yet alienate people in the process. Then you are right but still “pissed off” because they act like they are not convinced. They sulk and nobody wins.
A more effective way to go about proving your point would be to get their buy-in on your point of view. Then, even if they don’t agree 100%, they will still feel affectionate enough to want to listen to it. You can set forth your arguments point by point. If it makes sense to you, does it really matter if it makes sense to someone else?
Logic alone has never convinced people if they want to stand by their point of view and save face. Lack of logic, when presented by a charismatic person, can be very convincing. Let’s take Jonestown as an example. Mr. Jones convinced almost 1,000 people to commit suicide based on his arguments. Was he right? Did he win? Did anyone win?
If your arguments are strong and feel good for you, regardless of how others respond, you will feel in your heart that they are right. Then allow others to come to their own understanding in their own time.
A more effective way to go about proving your point would be to get their buy-in on your point of view. Then, even if they don’t agree 100%, they will still feel affectionate enough to want to listen to it. You can set forth your arguments point by point. If it makes sense to you, does it really matter if it makes sense to someone else?
Logic alone has never convinced people if they want to stand by their point of view and save face. Lack of logic, when presented by a charismatic person, can be very convincing. Let’s take Jonestown as an example. Mr. Jones convinced almost 1,000 people to commit suicide based on his arguments. Was he right? Did he win? Did anyone win?
If your arguments are strong and feel good for you, regardless of how others respond, you will feel in your heart that they are right. Then allow others to come to their own understanding in their own time.
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