On the subconscious level, when they were only children, some people were given messages that they were bad or worthless. That is what they were taught about themselves when they were too young to argue against it. Now that they are adults, they have buried these messages but these messages are still active, like volcanos under the surface.
Because the self-sabotagers truly believe they are worthless and bad, they don’t believe they deserve to succeed. Logically, bad people should not succeed. They need to be punished. So they sabotage themselves. If they want love, they find it with an abusive partner who will punish them. If they want a promotion at work, they will make important mistakes and watch as a someone else gets the job.
It takes a lot of interior contemplation to find and root out any hidden messages that we absorbed when our minds were like little sponges. If we allow these programs to fester deep within, we will always find a way to “lose” instead of win.
Because the self-sabotagers truly believe they are worthless and bad, they don’t believe they deserve to succeed. Logically, bad people should not succeed. They need to be punished. So they sabotage themselves. If they want love, they find it with an abusive partner who will punish them. If they want a promotion at work, they will make important mistakes and watch as a someone else gets the job.
It takes a lot of interior contemplation to find and root out any hidden messages that we absorbed when our minds were like little sponges. If we allow these programs to fester deep within, we will always find a way to “lose” instead of win.
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