It is like the old expression: “You can’t rip the skin off the snake.” But when the snake is ready, it sheds its skin easily and naturally. Often people come to their own healing when their back is against the wall and they are down on their knees in desperation. Then they may turn to you for your wisdom and guidance or they may find a spiritual teacher that is in tune with what they require. It is all up to them.
All of us vibrate at different levels according to where we are on our spiritual path. Our loved ones may be at a different stage in that path. We don’t want them to suffer the way they do. But it is truly only up to them to make the choices that lead towards higher vibrational levels. It won’t work if we try to do it for them. The process is highly individual and well-designed.